I just got back from carrying my 2 sons and 4 other neighborhood kids to the roller rink. On the way I heard Ray (black kid) say something about last time, being called the N word. It was time for a Brandt Psychology Re-wiring in this awesome 12 year old’s brain.

I stressed in a loud voice, “Do you want to know the absolute Best way to get back at a verbal bully?”

(All the kids got real quiet)

You look straight at him and with all your emotional strength, you find a way to Laugh AT him, and then with a face of the best Actor, say, “Wait a minute, is that suppose to hurt my feelings, I can try to pretend it does if you want!!?” then walk away trying to snicker.

Then I needed to follow up with a Seed that allows Ray to Not hold Any resentment toward the bully.

“Hey Ray, now you DO know what is behind Every bully don’t you? It’s just someone who is so scared or has too much pain built up inside from Others, that the only way they can get rid of it, is to transfer it into another! The Only question you need to answer in any case like this is,- Do I get mad and they win? or Do I play a Mental Game with them and I Win? Which one is it Ray? Guys, which one should Ray do?”end quote.

The wiring in this little lesson would be (if he remembers to practice it) life giving, because it will hard wire 2 critical things that create most emotional suffering.

1)When you go into a mindset of “acting” a part that is not you, your neurons actually start sectioning off separate area of the brain to harness this tiny identity! By practicing this, you actually can learn to divert the hurt into that area to where its not felt by you!

2)The second part is to Know and Affirmate these 4 life changing words – “The Can’t Help It”! By Knowing that Everbody has stress and it HAS to come out in Ebbs & Flows. Its not You personally, your just the statue at that moment and they are the pigeon.

But by affirmating this long enough, something amazing starts to happen! As you get stronger with this One belief, When people start testing & probing you to unload their stress, you WILL start to see it for the truth it really is, and instead of believing that You have a problem, the negative energy is eventually “Converted” into Compassion!!! This is one of my “Brandt Psychology” foundation beliefs in which we build other beliefs on. This is what I love to practice. It is probably the Holy Grail to True Growth. But very few can Do!

Let me bring this message home with an example that PROVES this lesson is true-

Say your eating at a restaurant, and you keep hearing these Loud laughing Outbursts on the other side of the half wall. Over and over again they go, with no consideration for others eating. Finally you have had enough and you walk around and suddenly feel guilty when you see that it’s a mentally challenged guy having a good time! Suddenly, all of your frustration was instantly converted into Compassion!

When we realize that people have no clue how to Really eliminate stress, that stress Cannot be eliminated, only converted!!!

So when someone starts throwing their “Hot Rocks of stress” at you, Play the Game of life and Convert it!

Thank you,John G. Hilderbrandt
(sorry it was so long)